by Jeff | May 22, 2016
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Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw
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This week, Jeff and DW sit down with Mike Jewell of Relational Integrity, LLC to talk about how we can be set free from the lies that we believe.
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Mike Jewell is the Founder of Relational Integrity LLC and Co-Founder of Trek Productions LLC, which produced The Trek program. He is also the creator of “The Bridge”. Mike serves on various nonprofit boards with a purpose of seeing lives transformed and relationships healed. He has extensive knowledge and experience in teaching, conflict resolution, personnel management, speaking and has led workshops for churches, married couples, veterans and more.
Whether it is your work, marriage, family or social relationships, there are certain truths that apply to all relationships. But, if we believe a lie instead of the truth, then we have difficulty relating to others, even with the ones we love most. Relational Integrity can assist you in discovering the Truth that sets you free from the lies you unknowingly believe. The Trek program was developed to look back onto the path you walked in life and discover the lies. Then you can exchange the truth for the lie and relationships will improve.
The Trek
The Trek is an online self-discovery video series that educates participants about themselves, their behaviors, and their emotional reactions toward situations and people they encounter every day. This self-discovery curriculum assists adults, parents, spouses, children, and families identify and celebrate the strengths in their lives while providing tools to recognizing and improve those areas where you feel improvement is needed.
The Trek can be used successfully by a wide range of people. Individuals, couples, and families can find answers, while non-profits, schools, youth organizations, governmental agencies and other service programs can serve their community with this curriculum.
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by Jeff | May 15, 2016
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Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Terra Kay @terrakfree
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Graduation season is upon us! It’s the time of year where grads reap the benefits of years of hard work – or so it seems. Here is our list of gifts you didn’t expect to get, but we think will mean more in the long run.
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May | Mental Health Month
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by Jeff | Feb 21, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Jason Kemper @kempster220
Episodes in this series: BAM Part 1 | BAM Part 2 | BAM Part 3 | BAM Part 4
The final part of the Building An Atmosphere of Mentorship series. This week, Jeff and Dave discuss the healthy mentor’s legacy. A legacy is essentially what is left after you are no longer actively imputing your life into another. It’s something that develops over time. Every mentor will leave some kind of lasting impact. Young or old; introverted or extroverted; paid or unpaid; professional or hobbyist – there is no limit to the ways by which we can all mentor. Let’s not make it overly complicated. But let’s be intentional on leaving a positive mark on someone’s life in every way possible.
Listen in as Jeff and Dave finish this series of building an atmosphere of mentoring.
Become A Coach | One area that needs mentors is on our live coaching lines. Are you 18+? Want to give a young person a few hours a week simply by being online and available? Check out our coaching page to learn about becoming a coach with our partner, Groundwire.net.
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Meet Cameron.
Cameron is a high school student from Rockford, IL who came to Winter Jam at Silver Birch Ranch this year and spent some time sharing wisdom and life experiences on the show. Thanks for hanging out with us, Cameron!
Dave’s take on a Mentor’s Legacy
I don’t really think much about what my legacy will be. I’m much more focused on today. What am I doing today to make someone successful? Let the legacy sort itself out. After all, it’s simply what other people think of me. People will always have opinions of you. All that I am responsible for is loving God and making Him known.
Jeff’s take on a Mentor’s Legacy
Your legacy is something to be aware of. When you’re young, you don’t really think about the mark you’re leaving behind. You know how I know? Because I did enough dumb things that I don’t want people to remember me for. Every one of us should be thinking about what kind of person we want to be remembered as because that end goal has a direct effect on the way we live today.
For me, that means I want to be looking out for other people’s needs before my own. It means saying ‘no’ to some things and ‘yes’ to other things. It means not settling for less than the best that God has for me. It means looking at what I do – large or small, significant or insignificant – and figuring out whether or not they have an eternal quality to them. Does what I do have an eternal effect on the world? What can I truly do to have an eternal impact on the world?
Check it out
7 Mentors You Didn’t Know You Had | Entrepreneur
23 Extraordinary Questions to Ask Your Mentor | Theresa Bradley-Banta
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by Jeff | Feb 14, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw
Episodes in this series: BAM Part 1 | BAM Part 2 | BAM Part 3 | BAM Part 4
Building an atmosphere of mentoring involves the things we say and do. On this episode, Jeff and Dave discuss the opportunity mentors can use to “fire up” those around them. A great mentor is like a fire tender. They know how to make sure the fire doesn’t become destructive or flame out. Like a fire is dynamic, so is mentoring. There are ups that downs. There are times where the fire is steady and it doesn’t need more wood or oxygen. There are times when the fire needs more or less of those things depending on the situation.
One specific tool mentors use is their words. What we say, when we say it and how we say it matters. And we get to control the words we use! Listen in as Jeff and Dave continue this series of building an atmosphere of mentoring.
Become A Coach | One area that needs mentors is on our live coaching lines. Are you 18+? Want to give a young person a few hours a week simply by being online and available? Check out our coaching page to learn about becoming a coach with our partner, Groundwire.net.
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DW. | Sabbath
The idea: Sabbath was given to us not just as a day of rest like many believe, but also as a day of relationship. This day was established to be one where families could intentionally instill value into one another. And they did this in some significant ways. Husbands would honor their wives in front of the group. By honoring, they would recommit their desire to love them and serve them. Maybe they would give gifts or do something that would show honor to them. Likewise, the parents would bless their kids. They would speak life over them, affirming them and their qualities or personal abilities.
Affirmation. Honor. Significant, meaningful time clear of distractions and “busyness”. These are the keys to making this day meaningful. What would happen if families used this example as a template for a couple hours 1 day a week? Would our family life be different today? Would communities be different? Will our country change?
How do we encourage as mentors?
- Words. Affirm the truth and debunk myths or lies they believe about themselves or others. Genuine, honest feedback is valuable to anyone. It doesn’t mean you’ll always like what they have to say. But the last thing any of us need are more empty words or empty promises. Let’s raise the expectation that we can all be honest and truthful, even if it hurts me or the other person’s feelings. Let’s create a culture of honesty, honor, generosity, and humility.
- No words. Active listening can be a greater encouragement to someone. Remember, not everyone coming to you with an issue is looking for you to solve it.
- Acts of generosity. This is done in a variety of ways using our time, talent or treasure. Generous people are people you want to be around.
What other ways can you think of?
The difference between empty flattery and solid encouragement
by Jeff | Feb 7, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Jason Kemper @kempster220
Episodes in this series: BAM Part 1 | BAM Part 2 | BAM Part 3 | BAM Part 4
Mentoring isn’t just something we believe in theory. It’s foundational to life. One quality that makes a mentor great is their humility. They’re able to admit they don’t know everything. This week, Jeff and Dave discuss the qualities of good mentors. It may surprise you to know that you don’t have to have all the answers to be a mentor to someone.
Whatever your current situation is now, we want to invite you to be part of the vision of creating atmospheres of mentoring wherever you are!
Become a Coach
One area that needs mentors is on our live coaching lines. Are you 18+? Want to give a young person a few hours a week simply by being online and available? Check out our coaching page to learn about becoming a coach with our partner, Groundwire.net.
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Galatians 5:13-26 | The Heart of a Great Mentor
“For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Point: A great mentor is not looking for personal gain. Loving your neighbor often comes at a price. Love isn’t easy. But it’s worth it. It involves pain and loss, at times. Acts of love often get ignored or dismissed easily. Don’t get discouraged!
But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another.
Point: A great mentor watches what they say.
So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves.
The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.
Point: A great mentor points out the dirty spots of our lives where we are acting opposite of what God would have for us. They’re not trying to make light of your flaws more than they want to help you get better in an area you’re weak. Usually, they’re pointing out something that’s obvious or should be obvious.
But when you are directed by the Spirit, you are not under obligation to the law of Moses.
When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.
Point: If you’re living by what makes you feel good, you’ll end up doing this stuff. A great mentor will steer you away from danger. Listen to their wisdom. They know what they’re talking about.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives. Let us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.”
Point: Living the way God intended will produce the qualities every one of us is inspired by: love, joy peace… If you want these things in your life, God makes it simple. A great mentor will show you how to live simply by doing life together.
by Jeff | Jan 31, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Jason Kemper @kempster220
Episodes in this series: BAM Part 1 | BAM Part 2 | BAM Part 3 | BAM Part 4
Mentoring isn’t just something we believe in theory. It’s foundational to life. Whether it’s raising kids or training the new recruit how to do his or her job, mentoring happens in a variety of ways everywhere… or at least it should. Faith communities are also greatly positioned in communities to be a hub for mentoring to take place. However, as time becomes more scarce and people become more interested in things they are people, we lose out in big ways when it comes to quality mentoring. And this generation, is in great need of awesome, inspiring, life-giving mentors.
Whatever your current situation is now, we want to invite you to be part of the vision of creating atmospheres of mentoring wherever you are!
Become A Coach | One area that needs mentors is on our live coaching lines. Are you 18+? Want to give a young person a few hours a week simply by being online and available? Check out our coaching page to learn about becoming a coach with our partner, Groundwire.net.
Podcast: Download
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Show Notes
Join us at Winter Jam @ Silver Birch Ranch!
Think about every single sector of industry right now. Can you think of any jobs or careers in which training or mentoring was not a part of the job? Very few, I would imagine. So, why is it that faith communities are struggling to provide quality mentoring relationships for those who are searching? Do we just not see the value? Is our time and focus being put elsewhere?
A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be. -Tom Landry
