Who Controls You?

Who Controls You?

Here’s a list of the things that I’ve found have controlled me at some point in my life.



Seemingly obvious, money does influence many people, especially those in decision-making positions of leadership. When Jesus said that we can’t serve both God and mammon (money), He wasn’t kidding. We do stupid things for a couple bucks.



No matter what age you are, many would have a hard time disappointing Mom and Dad over something small. You might even hear your Mom’s voice in your head before making an important decision. Those who labored to raise us have tremendous weight in our lives. And some of us never grow up because of it.



What would you do for love? The truth is, we’re all looking for love and meaningful relationships in life. And when we find them, we don’t want to fail them. And sometimes, we allow ourselves to be ruled by a few significant relationships in life. You might even have made a few important choices based on what a couple of these friends were doing at the time. Relationships can be a great thing in our life. It can also be the source of the biggest pain we can ever know in this world. And when we get disappointed by one of them, it can be tramatic.


My Past

This ties in with the last one a little. You let your past control who you become. History does have a way of repeating and we often end up making the same mistakes more than once in life. Some people have a really difficult time letting go of what the past was. And I’m not just talking about past failures or pains. I’m also talking about success. We can really fixate on significant moments in our past to define who we become in life. This is not good. But it’s a reality.


Social Acceptance

Want to disappoint everyone? Try winning the approval of everyone and you’ve found the secret. That’s right. Seeking approval from everyone will eventually lead to disappointment and despair. So, what can we do? Disappoint a few people just to win a few others’ approval? Maybe. But then you’ll feel guilty for letting the others down. It’s a miserable cycle.


Anger & Emotions

It’s truly amazing and disturbing to see the world events escalate based on a few people’s angry emotions. Anger does something to a person that can easily become contagious and spread like a wildfire. Get a bunch of angry people together, and watch a riot break out. One decision rooted in anger can change the course of your life or someone else’s life in an instant. Do not let your anger rule you.


The Spirit

There’s only one thing that I’ve allowed to control me that has produced strong, life-changing, positive results in my life. Namely, surrendering to the Holy Spirit. Every other thing on this list has left me feeling more insecure, lonely, inadequate or… angry. The Spirit works from the inside-out. Most everything else works opposite that to try to change our circumstances. And none are permanent changes. The others are cyclical and temporary. Learn more about the Spirit in your life today.

#046: Things I Wish I Knew

#046: Things I Wish I Knew

Tonight, Kristen Jane Anderson shares the things she wished she knew before making a destructive decision that nearly cost her life. Her book, Life In Spite of Me, can be found here.

I wish I knew… by Kristen Jane Anderson

1. The Gospel. Having grown up in church much of my life, I never heard what it meant to have a relationship with God.

2. Depression – how common it can be, as well as the triggers, the signs, and how easy it is to fall into a depression.

3. I was suicidal. I thought about things normal people wouldn’t think about.

4. My mom and even some of my friends didn’t have it all together or figured out.

5. Isolation breeds depression.

6. I didn’t have to keep so much of the stress and pain I was feeling to myself. I especially wish I would have shared it with my parents.

7. My parents weren’t trying to hurt me at all. They just wanted to help me.

8. It wasn’t my job to protect my parents.

9. There were really good youth groups at churches nearby that I would have enjoyed being a part of.

10. It would get better, that it always does, and that God had really good things planned ahead of me. (Jeremiah 29:11)

11. God was near, that He cared about me more than I could have ever imagined (even about the little things), and He seriously wanted a relationship with me.

12. The blessing of the body of Christ, the friends, the leaders, and the music. I didn’t know what I was missing

13. Although Jesus had never sinned, He could sympathize with my weaknesses. (Hebrews 4:15)

14. Jesus didn’t come for the healthy. He came for the sick. (Mark 2:17)

15. The power of God, the Bible, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.


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#033: Your dreams can come true

#033: Your dreams can come true

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Ever catch yourself daydreaming some days? What do you daydream about? Where do dreams come from? How can we know what they mean?

All great questions that we’re talking about on this week’s edition of HopeNet Radio. According to Wikipedia, dreams are successions of images, ideas, emotions, and sensations that occur involuntarily in the mind during certain stages of sleep. The content and purpose of dreams are not definitively understood, though they have been a topic of scientific speculation, as well as a subject of philosophical and religious interest, throughout recorded history. The scientific study of dreams is called oneirology.

What’s your weirdest dream? What kinds of things do you dream about? Or are you like DW who doesn’t?

Join Jeff, DW, Kyle and Todd on Cloud 9 for a fun and vivid conversation about dreams. Share your favorite or least favorite dream you’ve ever had in the comments below!

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Who Controls You?

#030: Big Questions

Jeff & Dave tackle some of life’s big questions that require an answer. With many young people asking such deep philosophical and theological questions today about life and God, we felt the need to give some understanding and answers to a few of them. Kristen Jane Anderson is also back in studio talking about some upcoming stuff she’s doing this year including the Be the Light Walk for suicide prevention in De Pere, WI.

Some links to check out in light of our discussion tonight:

A Case for Christ by Lee Strobel
Moment of HopeRelationship with God
Elijah Abraham – Stand Up for the Truth’s articles regarding reaching out to Muslims as well as learning of the differences between Christianity & Islam
The Normal Christian Life by Watchman Nee


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#007: Dear Me Letters

#007: Dear Me Letters

#007: Dear Me Letters

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Who’s on this episode?

Jeff Strommen @jstrommen
Dave Wager @wagerdaw

Tonight on HopeNet Radio, Jeff & Dave read your “Dear Me” letters and share their own. Plus, we’re opening up the conversation that will continue into next week about where all the good men have gone. Good men are hard to come by today. It seems every man is falling to pornography and addictions of all kinds. Many are hesitant to lead and are withdrawn from the family life. Something has to change. What does it mean to be a good man today? It’s time for our men to “man up” and realize our God-given responsibilities. Plus your emails, comments & tweets!

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