#122: No Offense, But I’m Offended

#122: No Offense, But I’m Offended

Who’s on this episode?

Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Jason Kemper @kempster220 | Mike Ott @TheOtterPop


Unless you’ve lived under a rock for most of your life, chances are such that you’ve been offended. Someone has said something or done something directly or indirectly that hurt you. Jeff and Dave are tackling this very issue in the third part of the Building A True Community series.

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Show Notes

The 3 Degrees of Offense

  • Bothered – Someone puts onions on your burger after specifically requesting ‘no onions.’
  • Offended – Someone calls you a smelly onion.
  • Triggered – They throw an onion at your face.

Romans 14 | NLT

Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong.

For instance, one person believes it’s all right to eat anything. But another believer with a sensitive conscience will eat only vegetables. Those who feel free to eat anything must not look down on those who don’t. And those who don’t eat certain foods must not condemn those who do, for God has accepted them.

Who are you to condemn someone else’s servants? Their own master will judge whether they stand or fall. And with the Lord’s help, they will stand and receive his approval.

In the same way, some think one day is more holy than another day, while others think every day is alike. You should each be fully convinced that whichever day you choose is acceptable. Those who worship the Lord on a special day do it to honor him. Those who eat any kind of food do so to honor the Lord, since they give thanks to God before eating. And those who refuse to eat certain foods also want to please the Lord and give thanks to God.

For we don’t live for ourselves or die for ourselves. If we live, it’s to honor the Lord. And if we die, it’s to honor the Lord. So whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.

Christ died and rose again for this very purpose—to be Lord both of the living and of the dead.

So why do you condemn another believer? Why do you look down on another believer?

Remember, we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. For the Scriptures say, “‘As surely as I live,’ says the LORD, ‘every knee will bend to me, and every tongue will declare allegiance to God.’” Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God. So let’s stop condemning each other.

Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not cause another believer to stumble and fall.

I know and am convinced on the authority of the Lord Jesus that no food, in and of itself, is wrong to eat. But if someone believes it is wrong, then for that person it is wrong. And if another believer is distressed by what you eat, you are not acting in love if you eat it. Don’t let your eating ruin someone for whom Christ died. Then you will not be criticized for doing something you believe is good. For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.

If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too.

So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up. Don’t tear apart the work of God over what you eat. Remember, all foods are acceptable, but it is wrong to eat something if it makes another person stumble. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble. You may believe there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing, but keep it between yourself and God. Blessed are those who don’t feel guilty for doing something they have decided is right. But if you have doubts about whether or not you should eat something, you are sinning if you go ahead and do it.

For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning.”



10 Necessary Qualities for Building Community (source)

A faculty learning community is a faculty group engaging in activities that provide learning, development, and community. The following qualities guide the design and process of a faculty learning community:

Safety and Trust. In order for participants to connect with each other, there must be a sense of safety and trust. This is especially true as participants reveal weaknesses in their teaching or ignorance of teaching processes or literature.

Openness. In an atmosphere of openness, participants can feel free to share their thoughts and feelings without fear of retribution. For example, in the Community Using Difference to Enhance Teaching and Learning at Miami, participants were able to discuss ways that other participants or colleagues offend them.

Respect. In order to coalesce as a learning community, members need to feel that they are valued and respected as people. It is important for the university to acknowledge their participation and financially support community projects and attendance at related conferences.

Responsiveness. Members must respond respectfully to each other, and the facilitator(s) must respond quickly to their participants. The facilitation should welcome concerns and preferences, and when appropriate, share these with individuals and the community.

Collaboration. The importance of collaboration in consultation and group discussion on individual members’ projects and on achieving learning outcomes hinges on the group’s ability to work with and respond to each other. In addition to individual projects, joint projects and presentations should be welcomed.

Relevance. Learning outcomes are enhanced by relating the subject matter to the participants’ teaching, courses, scholarship, and life experiences. All participants should be encouraged to seek out and share teaching and other real-life examples to illustrate them.

Challenge. Expectations for the quality of outcomes should be high, engendering a sense of progress, scholarship, and accomplishment. Sessions should include, for example, those in which individuals share syllabi and report on their individual projects.

Enjoyment. Activities must include social opportunities to lighten up, bond, and should take place in invigorating environments. For example, a retreat can take place off campus at a nearby country inn, state park, historic site, or the like.

Esprit de Corps. Sharing individual and community outcomes with colleagues in the academy should generate pride and loyalty. For example, when the community makes a campus-wide presentation, participants strive to provide an excellent session.

Empowerment. A sense of empowerment is both a crucial element and a desired outcome of participation in a faculty learning community. In the construction of a transformative learning environment, the participants gain a new view of themselves and a new sense of confidence in their abilities. Faculty leave their year of participation with better courses and clearer understanding of themselves and their students. Key outcomes include scholarly teaching and contributions to the scholarship of teaching.


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#100: The 100th Episode – A Look Back, A Look Ahead

#100: The 100th Episode – A Look Back, A Look Ahead

100 episodes.

That’s a lot of conversations. What an exciting journey this has been with you! We’ve got it all tonight: Peeps records, our favorite episodes of HNR, and a little of where we’re going in the next 100. Jeff, DW and Jason welcome Terra Kay and Mike Ott back to the show.

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Show Notes

Terra Kay is the Volunteer & Outreach Coordinator at World Relief Fox Valley. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter. https://twitter.com/hopenetradio/status/650830332950921216 Mike Ott is the youth pastor at Graceway Fellowship in Green Bay. He’s got a million and one great youth ministry ideas and will be embarking on #dadlife here in the next week or two.

October 8 is Bring Your Bible to School Day.

Don’t forget about Fields of Faith on October 14.

#095: Life Before Death

#095: Life Before Death

If you’re anything like me, you’ve wondered about life on Pluto or somewhere far, far away. You have maybe wondered if there’s really life after death and talked about the possibilities while at a slumber party. And speaking of parties, t0night’s conversation centers around what we do about today. Why don’t we worry about life before death as much as we do about in the outer galaxies or beyond the grave?

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The Notes

Guests tonight include Mike Ott and 3 of his students who just spent a week on a local missions trip making a great use of their time this summer!

More to come…

#084: Dear Class Of 2015

#084: Dear Class Of 2015

Dear Class of 2015,

What an exciting time to be graduating! People of faith who have graduated long ago cry, “The sky is falling!” Headlines across the interwebs echo the supposed Christians walking away from the Church and becoming nuns… wait – Nones. But they may not be who we think they are. Then, they want you to believe that Millennials want nothing to do with church these days. Jeff and DW have one thing to tell you, “Don’t believe the hype!”

This week on the podcast, Jason and Mike join Jeff and Dave asking the question, “Why do so many young people keep the faith after graduation?”

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The Notes

Coming soon…

#074: Prom, The Ultimate Trust Bust?

#074: Prom, The Ultimate Trust Bust?

Spring is in the air! For many teens around America, that also means prom season. This week, Jeff, DW, Jason, Mike and Jordan talk about ways to avoid making prom your ultimate trust bust this year. Be part of the Tweetback!

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What do we want to accomplish?

This is a fair question to ask when there is controversy around a particular topic. Here’s what needs to be said:

  1. Encourage conversation between parents and teens about important stuff. Address the “we’re not gonna talk about it” crowd. Parents differ on whether their teen should attend school dances in public school. Parents reserve the right to allow or disallow their child to participate. Many parents don’t care, though, and that’s why we’re bringing it up.
  2. We’re glad that teachers & parents invest time and money in fun, safe activities for teens. Hope that by talking about prom before prom helps make it a fun, more safe experience for everyone.
  3. You may believe that good teens should never go to prom. Valid. We believe that conversations save lives and it’s important to talk to the “I’m-Going-to-Prom Crowd” this week.

Fair enough? On with the conversation!

average prom costs

According to USNews.com (click for source)


The Facts.

Prom is not a cheap occasion, averaging between $835 and $1,125. Check these numbers out from Liberty Mutual/Students Against Destructive Decisions and National Highway Traffic Safety Administration:

  • 90% teens believe their peers are more likely to drink and drive on prom night.
  • Only 29% believe driving on prom night comes with a high degree of danger.
  • 36% of teens say their parents have allowed them to attend parties where they knew alcohol would be available.
  • 14% of teens say their parents have hosted teen gatherings with alcohol.
  • 54% of students drank more than 4 drinks on prom night.

[Tweet “Don’t mistake prom night for your wedding night. #sexisnotlove #HNRTB”]

Jeff’s Prom Facts
  1. Trends are overrated. You’ll laugh at those pictures in 15 years.
  2. Spending $1000 on prom is your worst financial decision of 2015. #wheredidmymoneygo
  3. If you think a dress, hairstyle, new nails and makeup makes you beautiful, you have no idea what beauty is. #redefined
  4. A date for prom does not make it the best prom. #dontdatealoser
  5. Even the prom queen struggles with feeling beautiful.
  6. Prom Court honors mean basically nothing after graduation.
  7. Don’t mistake prom night for your wedding night. #sexisnotlove
  8. Early curfew is better for your health.
  9. Failure to plan is planning to fail.
  10. Getting your friends and you home safe is your #1 goal.

Bonus: Don’t be afraid to be different. Successful people usually flow against the grain in how they do things, anyway.

What are you most looking forward

What didn’t we cover this week?

3 Tips for Parents to Discuss Prom Safety with Teens – US News
Drunk Driving After Prom: Perception vs. Reality – US News
Teenager takes his great-grandmother to prom – Fox News