Have you ever met someone who has an excuse for every situation, letdown, decision – everything? All the time. They’re always right in their mind. And if you call them out, they get defensive and there’s a good chance you lose a friend.

I’ve been there. I had excuses.

It’s a sign of a deeper distress. As good as I could make excuses sound, they were what they were – excuses. The more I used them, the more I believed them. And before too long, I’d made excuses left and right. I didn’t realize it, but my excuses were causing people hurt. What I was communicating was “I’m right. You’re wrong. Get over it.” Harsh. Thankfully, that’s not me anymore.

I was done hurting others. I was done hurting myself. I gave over my need for control and the need to be right.

The reality is that people see through excuses. Not always right away, but they will. Excuses aren’t always lies… but they’re not always the whole truth.

In fact, the writer of Romans says that one day each of us will give an account of ourselves to God himself. No excuses. Come on, would you really try to lie to the Judge?

What excuses do you have? True freedom comes when you start letting go of the excuses and the need for control. God wants to set you free from whatever it is that keeps you from being free. All you need to do is be willing to change.

If you need someone to talk to about this, there’s a coach waiting to talk to you.